EFT for children
“EFT helps big and small wounds for a more zen childhood and a harmonious family life”
The environment, a guarantee of good brain development
Childhood is a crucial moment for a child’s development. The time spent on the ground, the movements, the interactions with those around it, the cuddles, the love from mom and dad will allow the child to lay the foundations for its neuronal development. The child will rely on these bases for their school learning (reading, writing, mathematics).
The proper maturation of their brain, their psychomotor, emotional, and social development will depend on their environment.
To develop themself, the child needs to grow in a reassuring and safe environment. Sometimes, the security of a child can be disturbed by an unexpected external event, such as a long and/or difficult childbirth, a move, a change of school, a divorce, a death.
When should you consult?
While the child is in nursery or at the nanny’s: parents consult me when the child is withdrawn, when it hits others repeatedly, when it is anxious, hyperactive, or has difficulty falling asleep.
While the child is in primary: parents consult me for bullying, feeling anxious about learning, having difficulty connecting with their peers but also when the child is introverted.
Children are not able to express their emotions. Their behaviour will therefore be their language: mood swings, being silent, not wanting to go to school anymore, temper tantrums, confrontation, opposition, violence, rolling on the floor, insomnia, night terrors, eating disorders are all reasons to consult.
Parents also consult me for:
- Jealousy problems
- When the child has difficulty finding their place at home, with siblings, at school with friends
- Incessant fights between children
- Night terrors
- Sleeping problems
- Eating problems
- OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)
- Lack of self-esteem, especially at school
- A child who struggles to express itself, to look in one’s eyes
- Learning difficulties
- Attention, concentration, and memorization problems
- Attention deficit disorder, possibly with hyperactivity (AD(H)D)
- A DYS (dyslexia, dysgraphia, dyspraxia…)
- Scared of failure, reciting a poem, bad grades
Difficulties to deal with emotions
What happens in an EFT session?
For children who are less than 6 years old, a session lasts 30 minutes. Above 6 years old, a session lasts 45 minutes.
The sessions are focused on emotions, they aim to help the child to express how they feel. This will develop their emotional intelligence, necessary for a good interpersonal and intrapersonal relationship, and will allow them to evolve with confidence in the world, whether it’s in a playground, in social life or later in an organization.
To talk about emotions, I use drawings, emoji pillows, pictures, writing.
To unblock emotions, I rely on EFT, but also on brain gym, on rhythmic movements, on dance, on tales, on the child’s imagination, on games.
Each individual being unique, I adapt my sessions depending on the child’s character and their needs. I also adapt the time of my sessions (a session can last more than 30 minutes for a child who is less than 6 years old).
Children appreciate EFT as it is playful, but also because they instantly feel better. Some even ask to be tapped before going to bed.
EFT is very effective for children, with rapid and lasting results, as children do not have the emotional baggage that adults have.
The parent’s corner
When I support a child, I also work in close collaboration with the parents so that there is consistency and that we go in the same direction.
I also give the parents tools to find harmony at home, to deal with emotional outbursts, disturbing behaviour and to understand the child’s behaviour.
If this is necessary, I also involve the teacher.
We called Sophie in the context of a tense relationship between our two daughters of 4 and 6 years old. She allowed them to express their emotions thanks to EFT and thus to discern what was punctual frustrations versus a permanent love.
The change was impressive. When arguments arose, they had the tools to simply handle their conflict. They knew how to identify what made them angry, and they knew how to become joyful again. This allowed us to regain a serene and good-natured environment for our family. Our two daughters really liked these sessions and would ask me if they go back to see “the doctor of emotions”.
Sophie has a very educational and playful approach to EFT for children. My 8-year-old son consulted Sophie for a defined period following difficulties at home. She helped him put words on his emotions and to regain confidence. Sophie also enlightened us on the needs of our son and how to answer to them.
I still regularly consult Sophie via Zoom and I am delighted to see that EFT also works very well at a distance.
Concerning my son who was extremely stressed, it was a miracle. This word may seem strong, it is, and that why I chose it.
I was not present during the appointments that Sophie had with my son, I had Sophie’s impressions and very little information coming from my son, but either way, concretely, my son gained a lot of confidence in himself by Sophie’s side and finally went to school without a knot in his stomach.
In terms of a person, it is so precious to be well with oneself.
In terms of parents, we don’t always have the solutions, we shouldn’t hesitate to ask for help.
A big thanks to Sophie, who allowed me and my son to be better.
Sophie saw Joseph for 4 sessions. We went to see her as Joseph would have nightmares almost every night. She managed to get him to talk and express his emotions. She had recommended us to give him a massage tapping and insist on certain point every night. Joseph’s nightmares progressively stopped. We were very grateful for Sophie’s work which understands children’s emotions without “over investing” them.
Charlotte/Joseph, 4 years old